I have more to add

I have thought lots more about connection and energy since last week’s post and having listened and read even more on the subject, I have more to share.

On reflection, I only covered a piece of the story. I want to apologise if last week you finished reading the post feeling left out or misunderstood. Obviously no two of us are Excatly the same and like all things, our energies will be affected differently to connection and lack of. However, there are some interesting distinctions that can be made between people and the style/amount of connection that they need and want.

I am going to break it down into categories…

Type of connection- Briefly covered last week; people, yourself and the planet, additionally religion is a very common one that I didn’t include.

How sensitive we are to connection - Do you absorb people’s energy quickly and significantly or do you feel your energy stays grounded in you. Are you sensitive to other’s feelings and appreciate short and fast interactions, you may find that this ensures you get only the best of people’s energy and you move away before they can no longer sustain it or you get tired. Or does it take you a little longer to connect, in this case you might feel you need more time with people or in reflection to get the desired effect.

Style of connection to others; in groups or one on one, some of us feel more excited by a group, others need to feel seen to feel connected and miss that in a group.

Frequency - some of us have grown up in big families and need constant people connection, others have been an only child and time to connect to themselves is more crucial, and another kind of person may have a routine of praying three times of day and without that, lacks their energy.

As I am sure you know by now, as an over-thinker i like to try and simplify and categories information about my mind and the world, in order to understand them better and as ever, I need to remind myself that although true to a certain extent, they are not absolute. We could over-simplify this and say that introverts tend to find more energy in connecting to themselves and extroverts find more energy in connecting to others. But please be aware that the truth is more like a scale, on which we all fall above, below, to one side or another and the main purpose of discussing this scale is to help you become more aware of where you find your energy (outside of the usual food, sleep and caffeine or adrenaline sources).

WHAT THIS HAS BROUGHT ME

It has been a fascinating topic for me to uncover, it has helped me not only to find more energy in my day, but pleasure and of course connection. As a hyper-achiever, I have the desire to be high energy all the time, my most productive as possible 24/7. Obviously ridiculous and worse yet, I have projected this onto other people too, as I want others to be energetic, selfishly, so they don’t bring down my energy. This is not something I am proud to admit but since learning more about connection and energy, I have found far more empathy for people. Why people may chose or ask for time alone, with me or friends, why they may be feeling low and how I can support others to shift their energies in a softer and kinder, more patient way.

Here is an activity- short and sweet, that I have done this week. A Lil Journal prompt for you to give a go.

Getting it down on paper is my favourite way to identify and solidify my learnings as an over-thinker.

And for the nosey ones amongst us… I know I would be interested… here is what I got from the prompts….

I’d love to hear about what you found. Maybe it inspired you to do something or see someone? Let me know in the comments!

Love from Lil xx