When 2+2≠4

Why don’t my actions align with my goals.

I’m a pretty considered person, some might say even too considered (hence the over-thinker). But for some reason, despite what feels like my best efforts, many of my actions don’t align with my goals.

You might notice this in yourself too? …Wanting to get a 2.1 in your degree but not sitting down to put the hours in? Wanting to avoid getting sick but not creating a balanced healthy lifestyle? Wanting to find a partner but not saying yes to dates?

When the solutions to your goals seem obvious and yet time passes and you are still where you started, hoping and not doing, you can, like I do, get rather frustrated with yourself. 

It seems we must be fooling ourselves?

Lil Challenge- set a 2 min timer and write down as many of your goals that you have been “trying” to achieve but don’t seem to be moving towards.

BUT before you do, let me give you an honest, vulnerable ‘Lil Example’ of my own (it’s actually the main reason I start Lil Leaps.. a biggen for me!)

We must take Lil Leaps together! (L-etting go of E-go A-nd P-ushing through S-elf doubt, in case you didn’t know!)

It’s not impossible, It’s difficult! because currently we are being blinded by saboteurs, telling us that we have to act in a certain way in order to avoid what we fear. And this fear avoiding behaviour is taking more force/power over our will than our true desires are.

A Lil Hint- As ever with our saboteurs, we must look to overcome them by overcoming our fears.

“My fears, but there are so many, where do I start?” I hear you moan!

A Lil Reassurance- we can rather simply boil down all our fears to a few main ones. We will delve deeper into this next week but for now keep it in mind.

Here is a Lil Help sheet that explains what has worked best for me in changing this infuriating pattern…