Dialling down the DrAmA.

When my Over-thinker and Hyper-achiever are so loud, I go into panic.

Here is an example that I experienced last week:

“Maybe everything I am putting my time into is wrong. What about all the other things I could and should be doing. I won’t ever make up my mind on what to do. I will never be content with anything .”

Everything becomes heightened and over the top but it feels very much realistic at the time.

So let’s get real about what is going on….

When I strip away all the hyperbolies, I see what problem I am actually facing…

In this case, I am worrying about distinguishing between; Helpful self-guidance (indicating that what I am doing isn’t in alignment with my goals and future wishes) and what is my hyper-achiever getting yappy. (This one is a tough one for all of us insightful Lil-Leapers who are working on untangling our over-thinkers and hyper-achievers ATM.) Essentially it is the question of how much self-doubt to listen to…

What we are not going to do today, is solve the problem itself… instead we are going to work on the essential first step to getting past the problem… DIALING DOWN THE DRAMA.

What ISN’T helping me work it out- is panicking that because I can’t now, I won’t ever be able to…. Well duh, of course that isn’t rational!….. Yet, it’s what I, and you, are behaving as if were true when our Over-thinkers and Hyper-achievers are running the show, with their jazz hands and sparkly pants (when they are in high drama).

What does help me

Sometimes it’s enough just to say to myself bluntly- “hey Lil, dial-down the drama.”-it often brings in the perspective and rationality that I need. I know it sounds stupidly simple and obvious but it has been a real mindset-shifter for me.

Most of the time, what I need is to dispel the energy- that the drama saboteurs have brought me- because my goodness, they have sent my anxiety through the roof and so no wonder my thoughts are bouncing around like ping-pong balls in my head. In this fight of flight state, I can’t work anything out. I need to get rid of the nervous energy in the ping pong balls in order to be able to sort through them.

There are plenty of ways of doing this but what I often find is the traditional meditations and mindfulness exercises don’t work for me when the DRAMA IS ON. My thoughts are way too loud and agressive to let me self-regulate gently. Instead, I need to RELEASE and DISPEL this energy.

Bellow is a Lil Tricks sheet… with the best techniques for doing just this.

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