The voice in our head

We all have a voice in our heads, it repeats the dentist’s phone number to us before we write it down.

However, not everyone is pestered or bullied by their inner voices.

Ever heard it say something like this…?

Many of us feel bound by our inner voice because it seems so convincing and so honest, it must be your “gut” speaking to you, right? Because it’s your voice you can hear, right?

No. That’s exactly what it wants you to think and that’s excatly how it keeps you trapped.

I call my saboteur, Lil Lurker… you will see why bellow!

So it is a BULLY?

Yes, and believe it or not, bullies are the most frightened of all.

Our saboteurs, the ‘bully voices’, (which questions our every move and doubts our every thought) are scared. Despite them sounding so harsh, it’s a survival mechanism working over-time, trying to keep us safe from dangers (which most of the time don’t exist).

Our saboteur create a ‘bank of fears’ learnt mostly from when we are kids and they store them securely so that anytime something which resembles the fear approaches, they can recognise it quickly and divert us to avoid it.

SOMETIMES IT IS USEFUL…

Lil Lurker might say: “The cars are driving very fast, don’t cross the road now .” The fear is a RATIONAL one. Having not taken the risk, I am safe from being hit by a car.

OTHER TIMES IT IS NOT…

Lil Lurker might say: “Don’t go to that training session, they will all be better than you.” The fear is an IRRATIONAL one, that ‘not being the best in the room will make me unworthy’. Now this sabotage isn’t protecting me it’s getting in my way.

It feels lonely being stuck in our heads, it feels relentless having to listen to our critical bully of a saboteur BUT….

We can OVERCOME it

We are most in danger of being sabotaged when we are distracted. If we don’t know that it is our Saboteur speaking to us, we believe what it says to us blindly and therefore have no power.

When we catch it, label it and break it down. We take back power, the power of choice. We aren’t directed by your fear anymore because we are aware of it and we can chose how much of it is really helpful and what is just getting in our way.

Want to know how?

Here is a Lil Help sheet that I use to untangle my thoughts and distinguish my unhelpful saboteur voice.

A Lil Moment of reflection for you too- a meditation-like recording for those of you, who like me find meditation impossible!

Sound a bit better to you?

Now what are you thinking? Send me a comment, let’s untangle your mind!

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