You may find this hard to believe...

I am sure you have picked by now that the main thing getting in your way in life is your Over-thinker and your Hyper-achiever and that their driving force is fear. If you are new, pop over to my website before we start to catch up on the useful Lil bits and bobs that I have previously posted.

You may have even established yourself what some of these fears are and the problems that they present…

Maybe you can never do well enough in your work because you fear that you will never make your parents proud enough, or that you can’t find anyone to date because you fear you will never be attractive enough.

Now, I think we are ready to take this one step further! We are going to level things up by boiling these fears right down!

Here we go…

Jot down 5 real-life fears that you notice that fuel your Over-thinker and Hyper-achiever (Lil Nudge- think back to a time when you were in full brain spin and try to express the fear that it stemmed from, e.g. scared your essay isn’t good enough for a 1st)

Now activate the over-simplifying part of your brain, (the one that likes to know right from wrong, black from white) and boil these fears down so you are left with one/two words to describe each one that expresses what it is implying.

It is actually much easier than you think because by nature, all of these fears are linked to one or two core ones.

A Lil Example-

• I won’t ever be successful enough

• I won’t ever find the right person

• I won’t ever be attractive enough

• I won’t ever be satisfied with what I am doing

• I won’t ever be certain

  = Not enough and never content seem to be the core of mine, to simplify these even further, I could even just say they are both relating to ‘never enough’

   

  It’s in our nature to overcomplicate, but here your one job is to over-simplify! Give it a go and let me know how you get on.

  What did you find?

  A Lil Hint- (you may have seen it in my recent TikTok) actually, every problem in your life can be blamed on a fear and that fear boils down to the fear of ‘never enough’, sound ridiculous?

Let me explain…

Imagine if you believed that you were always enough… you would always find a solution enough, to solve all of your problems enough.

Let’s say you are faced with the problem of being single despite really wanting a partner, rather than thinking: no one who approaches you is good enough, you aren’t attractive enough and so you will never find the right person (all fears of never enough)…. You would believe that: because you are attractive enough, you will find someone soon enough, they will be good enough for you and you don’t have to fear.

I heard this brilliant woman speaking in a podcast I listened to the other day, kick me- I forgot what it was called and now I can’t find it but I remember the most important and mind blowing thing she said:

This is the shift that is tricky but incredible… pain, sadness, challenge, discomfort, difficulty etc. are not problems when you truly believe that you are enough.

Now that you stripped it down to the bare bones of 1 fear… it feels a bit more manageable right? Weelllllll not reaaallly! Cause it feels like a hell of a monster to beat, right?

Actually, awareness is half of the battle, you have got this far in this week’s post, you may not be fully convinced, but you have got more awareness already.

A Lil Moment - To start us on the journey of conquering the fear of ‘never enough’ and overcome our saboteurs, I have recorded a Lil moment for you… give it a go, it is made especially for you who hates meditating!

A Lil Challenge - the only other thing you need to do for now is keep noticing, you may write it down, or make a notes page on your phone- when you notice yourself being sabotaged by your over-thinker and hyper-achiever, jot down how it links to ‘never enough’.